In a rut at home and in my marriage.
To cut a long story short, a couple of months into my marriage I think I could've ruined it.
I have always suffered depression and anxiety, and possibly some other mental issue that hasn't been diagnosed yet, erratic behaviour and terrible mood swings to say the least.
Anyway... I had joined a group on facebook for depression, to speak to others in the same boat and to see if I could get advice on how to cope etc etc.
Within a few days a guy had sent me a friend request and I accepted. I honestly thought nothing of it and chatted to him about life and just normal stuff. He then made it awkward and made it clear he was just looking for somebody to have a flirt with.
I had made it clear I was married and wasn't up for anything other than clean conversation. And I meant it, he was a lot older than me and I just wasn't interested in him like that.
But one evening I had had a few drinks and I ended up talking about my sex life.
I feel so ashamed, like I've cheated perhaps? even though it was only along the lines of something my husband liked.
He was a lot more open and dirty minded and I ended the conversation telling him he should go and spend time with his wife rather than messaging me and I deleted him off Facebook then deleted my account.
I admit I was flattered he found me attractive but that's it, I didn't find him attractive, I had felt sorry for him.
My marriage is in tatters now. Have I had one of these online emotional affairs? Should I be feeling so bad and how can I help my husband trust me. I want my marriage to work. Any advice would be very much appreciated. Sorry this is so long, hadn't meant it to be.
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GoldenYorkies · 30/10/2016 14:34
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