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Seekingadvice123 · 29/10/2016 17:20

Ive had quite a lot to drink and am feeling utterly heartbroken. I think my marriage is over. We went out today and had a few drinks. We ended up rowing about my DD (18) who from time to time I like to cuddle with in my bed. My DD nearly died from leukaemia ten years ago. I have so many residual feelings from that time. I guess I will never get over it. Apparently my fucking husband (her stepfather) has had an issue with her being in our bed while we cuddle or have had the very occasional night where she has slept in there. She always used to sleep with me when she was sick or having tube feeding. There are other issues with him when he becomes an arsehole when he drinks. I have come back home and left him in town. I sent him a text trying to explain where I am coming from and he tested back saying your child didn't die....move on. I am utterly bereft to read those words and have retaliated on a really bad way telling him I hate him. He was not around when she was sick so has no idea. I dont even know why I am posting.

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loveyoutothemoon · 29/10/2016 17:38

STUPID MAN. Stop wasting your time on him/explaining to him and move on.

I'm sorry you've had an awful time with your DD. Keep cherishing your moments with her.

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ImperialBlether · 29/10/2016 17:44

He sounds horrible, but is she coming into your bed when he's there too?

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Seekingadvice123 · 29/10/2016 17:45

Moving on means divorcing him. Feel so so hurt by his words and attitude. He has no fucking clue does he. Is it a case my children will always come over him.... yes.... it does.

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Seekingadvice123 · 29/10/2016 17:49

She rarely comes in for a cuddle. he was pissed and making so much shit up. She never comes in when he was there. I had so manny years just me and my twin girl before he came along. He just doesn't get it. He is an arseh;e when he drinks. Don't want to drip feed but there have been past events which have nearly split us up. Sorry..... am pissed and feeling so sad.

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loveyoutothemoon · 29/10/2016 17:52

Sounds like you're not sure whether to carry on with him.

If it was me it would be the end definitely.

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ImperialBlether · 29/10/2016 18:01

Anyone who was anything other than sympathetic, understanding, caring and respectful about my child's illness would be told where to go.

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growapear · 29/10/2016 18:04

LTB. First time i got to write that on MN ! Grown men thinking they should come before children in a woman's life are pathetic IMO.

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