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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

I can't offer you a relationship

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chasegirl · 28/10/2016 19:58

After 4 dates he states this. Would have been more useful at date 1. Tosser. That is all

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QuiteLikely5 · 28/10/2016 20:00

Perhaps he didn't know at that point?

Or am I missing the point ?

TurnipCake · 28/10/2016 20:01

Did he offer his penis as a consolation prize?

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:05

Yep Penistone offering was made

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SherlockStones · 28/10/2016 20:07

Perhaps he didn't know this initially?

At least he was upfront about it, damned if you do damned if you don't.

georgethecat · 28/10/2016 20:07

Tell him to do one

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:09

I kind of think he knew from the start but said the right things to move things along in his direction

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SherlockStones · 28/10/2016 20:10

chasegirl
Because he's a man right?

If it was a woman you wouldn't assume that would you?

TurnipCake · 28/10/2016 20:10

Predictable. Onwards and upwards (you, not his penis)

snakesandladders321 · 28/10/2016 20:12

Very presumptuous of him

Shurelyshomemistake · 28/10/2016 20:14

Does he mean he is with someone else?!

Cynara · 28/10/2016 20:14

Wave goodbye to him and his penis and move on. Tosser.

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:17

Sherlock no idea. I guess women do this too. I haven't.
I kind of think he wasn't interested in a relationship from the start

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Meadows76 · 28/10/2016 20:17

Why is he a tosser? Because after 4 dates he doesn't want to see you anymore? That says more about you than it does him.......

missyB1 · 28/10/2016 20:17

Hate that kind of presumptuous arrogance. You are well rid!

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:18

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis

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Meadows76 · 28/10/2016 20:21

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis. Oh. I don't see how anyone was meant to get that from the OP.

jeaux90 · 28/10/2016 20:22

Well if that what he wants then it's fair enough, I used to have one of those and it was actually very nice the important thing is that is clearly not for you. Moving on (next ....ring bell) you will find someone better xxx

CharlieSierra · 28/10/2016 20:26

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser.

Unrequitedlove · 28/10/2016 20:27

Did you like him enough to think it could be more? Better he has told you now. I guess the tosser remark is because it's still hurtful and not necessarily a reflection on you

SherlockStones · 28/10/2016 20:31

CharlieSierra

You must be a mind reader because there was close to no context to suggest that.

Meadows76 · 28/10/2016 20:32

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser. oh, I just read that they went out 4 times and he doesn't want to continue.

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:35

Unrequited- yes that's it. Sorry if my op wasn't clear was just having a quick vent. If he had been clear from the start I wouldn't feel m8slwad

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chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:35

Or even mislead

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expatinscotland · 28/10/2016 20:35

Cut loose and move on.

chasegirl · 28/10/2016 20:37

I will expat. No major drama really but just think FFS!!

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