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I can't offer you a relationship

(43 Posts)
chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 19:58:54

After 4 dates he states this. Would have been more useful at date 1. Tosser. That is all

QuiteLikely5 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:00:52

Perhaps he didn't know at that point?

Or am I missing the point ?

TurnipCake Fri 28-Oct-16 20:01:59

Did he offer his penis as a consolation prize?

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:05:40

Yep Penistone offering was made

SherlockStones Fri 28-Oct-16 20:07:08

Perhaps he didn't know this initially?

At least he was upfront about it, damned if you do damned if you don't.

georgethecat Fri 28-Oct-16 20:07:10

Tell him to do one

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:09:01

I kind of think he knew from the start but said the right things to move things along in his direction

SherlockStones Fri 28-Oct-16 20:10:34

chasegirl
Because he's a man right?

If it was a woman you wouldn't assume that would you?

TurnipCake Fri 28-Oct-16 20:10:56

Predictable. Onwards and upwards (you, not his penis) grin

snakesandladders321 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:12:26

Very presumptuous of him

Shurelyshomemistake Fri 28-Oct-16 20:14:45

Does he mean he is with someone else?!

Cynara Fri 28-Oct-16 20:14:58

Wave goodbye to him and his penis and move on. Tosser.

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:17:04

Sherlock no idea. I guess women do this too. I haven't.
I kind of think he wasn't interested in a relationship from the start

Meadows76 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:17:10

Why is he a tosser? Because after 4 dates he doesn't want to see you anymore? That says more about you than it does him.......

missyB1 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:17:48

Hate that kind of presumptuous arrogance. You are well rid!

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:18:42

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis

Meadows76 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:21:58

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis. Oh. I don't see how anyone was meant to get that from the OP.

jeaux90 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:22:03

Well if that what he wants then it's fair enough, I used to have one of those and it was actually very nice grin the important thing is that is clearly not for you. Moving on (next ....ring bell) you will find someone better xxx

CharlieSierra Fri 28-Oct-16 20:26:46

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser.

Unrequitedlove Fri 28-Oct-16 20:27:32

Did you like him enough to think it could be more? Better he has told you now. I guess the tosser remark is because it's still hurtful and not necessarily a reflection on you wink

SherlockStones Fri 28-Oct-16 20:31:19

CharlieSierra

You must be a mind reader because there was close to no context to suggest that.

Meadows76 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:32:03

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser. oh, I just read that they went out 4 times and he doesn't want to continue.

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:35:24

Unrequited- yes that's it. Sorry if my op wasn't clear was just having a quick vent. If he had been clear from the start I wouldn't feel m8slwad

chasegirl Fri 28-Oct-16 20:35:40

Or even mislead

expatinscotland Fri 28-Oct-16 20:35:59

Cut loose and move on.

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