Around a couple of months ago I met a man who I really hit it off with. He's gorgeous, funny, popular, talented and confident and he adored me. We had enough chemistry to blow up the street!
I knew he had some health problems. He suffers ME and I know he has previously spiralled into depression as a result of chronic sleep deprivation and I know that this has caused the end of relationships for him in the past. I didn't really consider what that could mean for me. He has quite literally changed into a different person. Overnight he has gone from being incredibly affectionate and supportive of my problems to completely closing down. He rarely responds to my messages and has cancelled every meeting we had arranged in this time. We have had some discussion about this and I have repeatedly said I'm here for him when he's ready but he just seems so shut down.
A bit of background about me, I separated from my husband at Xmas after our relationship had been dead for years and this is the first real involvement I've had with anyone for a long time. This separation has caused a lot of anxiety as a result of concerns about my children and making sure they're okay and the bare bones of breaking apart a marriage of 17 years. In addition I've had some serious health issues this year, likely brought on by stress and also a cancer scare. I'm actually having counselling myself and feel very fragile. This new man has been there for me every step of the way since I met him until now but I just don't know how to help him through this or if I'm strong enough to myself.
I know there's no clear answer here but I would welcome any advice.
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Should I walk away?
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RokChik · 27/10/2016 12:26
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