My lovely DP is having a rest next to me and I don't want to bother him anymore with this shit show that is the legal proceedings to try and get to see my DS more than one overnight a week...
We filed DA allegations today. ExH accuses me of being the bully and he was the victim. Apparently I 'aggravated' him...
He accuses me of looking after DS badly, by way of example, putting him to bed in dirty clothes in a bed without sheets and duvet covers. I don't recall the no sheets thing, but I do remember a few times DS refused to put PJ's on and I allowed him to sleep in daywear. Literally a couple of times over the years. Strangely enough, DS was adamant the other day that he wanted to sleep in his daywear so I let him. I think DS might have a learning difficulty but XH refuses to have DS referred to a diagnosis or to play therapy....why?
Once or twice I packed porridge with apple for his school snack 2 years ago when XH was taking psychedelic drugs across the world. This is also in XH's allegations of my abuse towards DS. Porridge with apple is actually a suitable snack in my birth culture but hey ho... It's healthier than crisps in my humble opinion but here we go.
Oh and apparently I told DS recently that I will move to South of Europe if I don't see DS... that wasn't exactly how the convo went, it was more a flippant observation made on the British weather and perhaps I also wanted to see what my son would say to that - at that point XH had convinced me DS does not want to see me more than the current minimum. It was only after that, when DS's legal guardian's report came, that I felt that actually DS does love me, and we still have a strong bond despite all of XH's efforts in distancing us from each other...
Apparently I used to point a finger at XH's face to try to antagonise a reaction...? I use hand gestures when talking, XH fully knows that my mum does finger pointing too, apparently XH considers it rude as DS the other day freaked out when I was pointing at some object, saying "Don't point IT'S RUDE!" I can only imagine who he got that hysterical reaction from...
Anyway, I'm just generally feeling lonely and tired from this Shit Show of a Circus.... looking forward to any kind of comments at all just to feel a bit less lonely, and also because I have genuinely received a crucial amount of support and help from you MNetters over the past months... I also started the Freedom Programme which I only found out thanks to you MNetters.
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Feeling lonely - anyone up? ExH's new DA allegations
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user1475501383 · 26/10/2016 23:05
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