Long time lurker, first time poster so please be gentle.
I don't even know what I want to gain from this post but I feel very unsettled so perhaps some outside perspective will help. And apologies for length!
I have a brother who moved to a different city to be with his partner about 7 years ago. My parents relationship with him has been strained since, and had become nc, our mother is a nightmare and father is lame but that's a whole other thread!
We found out a year ago that brothers partner (also male) has recently served a couple of years in prison for child sex offences. My brother has stuck by him and when he was released from prison they got a place of their own, they previously lived with partners parents.
I was pregnant whilst we found this out. I now have a beautiful boy
I had a conversation with my father last week and he said that they are still actively trying to pursue a relationship with my brother.
I feel sick. My dad wants to think that my brother is a victim in this and said that he would never trust him around kids but he's still his son. I honestly don't believe he is a victim and in my eyes he is condoning his partners behaviour by staying with him!
It's making me not trust my parents with my son. I was extremely annoyed when I found out they'd told him I was pregnant and I said at the time that I don't want him having any info about my child, even what gender etc. When I reiterated this the other day by dad looked at me like I'm unreasonable. My mum wants to provide childcare when I return to work but this is seriously making me doubt it.
I just don't know what to do, I am so angry at the way my dad is minimising it and I can't get my thoughts clear on it.
My partner and best friend are the only other people who know so maybe some impartial perspectives will help clear it up for me.
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice?
Thanks!
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Stitchsmum · 25/10/2016 09:04
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