Ok I need some perspective here please. DH & I have a generally happy marriage, we have a 4 month old DD and obviously things have been a bit stressful but no more than usual with a newborn (I don't think)
We moved to a new area near DHs parents when I was pregnant and since having the baby I've made a huge effort to get out and meet new friends/go to groups etc and me & DD have a lovely little social life. DH works freelance and has between 1 and 4 days off a week. He's generally good round the house and pulls his weight with everything BUT when he's off work he just wants to stay at home all the time. We have only done a handful of outings together as a family since DD was born. He generally sits on the sofa looking at his phone, never ever suggests going out and any of my suggestions are met with such a lukewarm response that I usually give up and find something else to do instead. We have a happy DD who is generally pretty easy to deal with and he doesn't do any of the night time get ups so I don't accept he's too tired... He's just lazy! I sometimes wonder where the DH I met has gone! Why doesn't he want to make an effort to spend nice time together? Do I need to just give him a break? Every time I bring it up we end up arguing and he says he'll do whatever I'd like to do. Is it unreasonable to expect some thought or initiative?! I'm genuinely confused!
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Frustrated - DH doesn't want to do ANYTHING
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SparkleSausage · 24/10/2016 16:33
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