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Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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loobyloo1234 Mon 24-Oct-16 13:51:33

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will.
12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)
13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Myusernameismyusername Mon 24-Oct-16 13:54:05


loobyloo1234 Mon 24-Oct-16 13:57:06

Myuser Waves

lastnicknamefree Just read your post on the other thread ... that guy confused I would block and move on tbh. Worth so much more

Evil Pls watch your heart with this man. If he shows up, amazing. If he doesn't ... it's his loss smile

GeordieBadgers Mon 24-Oct-16 14:01:52


Curlylox Mon 24-Oct-16 14:19:51

Oops silly me created a thread as didn't see this one but have asked admin to delete it.

Curlylox Mon 24-Oct-16 14:32:15

Baklava your post in 108 made me laugh out loud.

lastnicknamefree Mon 24-Oct-16 14:47:58

Thanks looby
What have you decided evil?

Hyggeligt Mon 24-Oct-16 16:12:40

Hello everyone-I have been on mum duty and not doing much sounds as if there have been some good weekends evil hope you're ok, it sounds as if you would be better off without him anywhere near you, but I understand how hard that must be. lastnickname , I agree with loobyloo about blocking .
I have date #2 with Mr Beard tomorrow- it was interesting reading about spark/looks v personality as he is really different in looks to any past exes , but he has an amazing personality. Not sure re spark, there wasn't one the first time me met, but I was soooooo nervous I'm not sure if that clouded everything. Fingers crossed for tomorrow
Not sure what to expect either, there was no hug, kiss or anything last time.
I wish there was an instruction manual for all this. So good to hear everyone else's experiences as all RL friends are in happy couples & have no clue about OLD at all, although are enjoyingearing about some of the messages I get sent...

lastnicknamefree Mon 24-Oct-16 16:48:56

Ooh date 2 hyggeligt where are you going? He must be interested if he's asked you out again

BaklavaBalaclava Mon 24-Oct-16 16:51:10

Takes a bow

Thanks curlylox

Mrsfluff Mon 24-Oct-16 16:58:00

Reporting for duty!!

Evil, please don't contact him x

SkyRabbit Mon 24-Oct-16 17:01:02

Checking in!

Got a date tonight - looks cute and very tall grin he told me the company he worked for, so I googled him , obvs wink. He's only the bloody CEO shock. Weirdly I'm a little put off by that - will he be a workaholic, and very 'grown up'?!

RosettaPebble Mon 24-Oct-16 17:10:46

Hi everyone. Its a while since I posted but been reading and keeping up to date with everyone.

I started seeing Mr Socially Awkward again. I had binned him as it had turned into a booty call thing. I don't want anything serious yet. I'm not ready for that but the friendship is equally as important to me as the benefits.
I missed him so when he asked for another chance I caved, I know, I know and surprise, surprise things are heading that way again. I'm ignoring all the rules at the moment but I know it will end again soon and it wont be pretty. Own worst enemy blush

Hope we all find someone wonderful by the end of this thread.

loobyloo1234 Mon 24-Oct-16 17:30:02

I'm pretty sure a few of us people have found someone within that last thread so fingers crossed Rosetta It will happen smile

Oooh check Skyrabbit and Hyggeligt out grin Hope both your dates tonight and tomorrow go well. Make sure you check in and let us know how you get on

Mrsfluff Mon 24-Oct-16 20:11:24

Good luck Sky and Hygge!

I have to wait to Friday for mine..........but I'm hoping hes worth the wait blush

debbs77 Mon 24-Oct-16 20:49:07

I didn't read the other threads but wanted to add to this one. Identifying but I don't have anything to hide.

Was due to go on a first date on Saturday. The first guy I've REALLY been chatting to. Spoke daily, Skype etc. Lovely guy.

Meant to meet at 12. Arranged childcare.

11.50am I get a text to say he can't make 12 and is at work til 1.30pm.

I'm sorry, but he knew at 11am he wouldn't make it as he would've had to leave at that time to travel! I went to the cinema on my own (it was great!) And told him to jog on!

Gutted though as I really thought he was lovely!

He doesn't think he did anything wrong as 'I did text you'. Yeah, ten minutes before!!

TessMcNess Mon 24-Oct-16 20:53:43

Late to the party as usual, but I had one of those last - can still remember that pang with the change in texts. Kidded myself for ages days it had changed because we were a 'thing' but that was clearly not the case.

Fingers crossed for sky and hygge, I so want to find someone I'm interested in.

In other news, Joe, the toothless wonder in the rowing boat who felt 'horney' has only gone and unmatched me on Tinder. WTAF!!

The thought that he though I wasn't up to his standards...words escape me!

Evilwater Mon 24-Oct-16 20:55:58

I've decided not to txt him.
I really, really want to, however I live in a smallish town and I'm sure to bump into him.

Mrsfluff Mon 24-Oct-16 21:06:27

I think that's wise Evil.

Sorry Tess, but I joi ed Tinder, just so I could steal Joe away from you! Your description of him..........mmmmmm wink

Bant Mon 24-Oct-16 21:21:26

Evening everyone. I used to be on this thread a fair bit, but not for a couple of years.. Time flies when you're having fun.

Well. I'm back. Online dating. Shit.

So. What's changed?

loobyloo1234 Mon 24-Oct-16 21:27:18

debbs77 - welcome smile Did he say he still wanted to see you? Or tried to arrange another date? Well done for going to the cinema alone though! Good for you grin Flaky men aaargh

Bant - probably nothing tbh ... more people are using OLD though I would say so seems its harder to find the genuine ones maybe?

datingbarb Mon 24-Oct-16 21:36:43

I'm rubbish at keeping up with these threads but I have been on and off them for the last few months if anyone remembers me.

Starting to get frustrated with dating apps, POF is rubbish just not one man in a 50 mile radius that I would even be interested in talking to let alone spend the money on a sitter to go on a date!

Tinder is ok loads of matches but hardly any talking, or the Ines I have talked to just want a shag... and I hate how you can't narrow it down to race, height etc

Wondering if I should try a new site... any suggestions??? Been on zoosk and match in the past but found them rubbish to sad

You ladies seem to have all the men... wondering what area you all live in

Vintagegirl1 Mon 24-Oct-16 21:38:12

I ignored all the good advice on last thread and went on a date wit the unavailable guy. Yep,I know, I know! I really ,really fancied him and we had a bit of a grope at end of night. I made it clear I was interested in a 1 night thing but he said he couldn't as had his dd staying with him. I was confused as thought he would be well up for it. He then didn't text me so I texted him and basically got brushed off. Of course I now feel like crap. It's made worse by the fact that he was 14 years older than me and not conventionally attractive while I have been told,not being conceited, that I am good looking. What's wrong with me?

Hyggeligt Mon 24-Oct-16 22:24:28

Hope tonight's gone well Sky
I'm meeting him at 12.30 last, and we're going to decide then-somewhere for lunch, and he said that he'd like to plan something else to follow on, maybe at the weekend grin. We'll see how tomorrow goes-I'll update as I can!
If anything, it's been lovely just chatting & texting with him.
datingbarb there are not many matches on okcupid--I have been thinking of joining another site too
Well done evil, I know how tough that must be

pringlecat Mon 24-Oct-16 22:56:42

I've had a steady stream of messages since joining POF - starting to get some interesting ones now beyond "Hey" and "How was your weekend?" Not sure I've found anyone exciting yet but it's doing wonders for my confidence. I definitely had a spring in my step today. smile

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