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What would you do?

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loookingforadvice Sun 23-Oct-16 03:53:05

I don't know if I should be posting here, but i just feel so alone and heartbroken. This would make a perfect episode for the Jeremy Kyle show!

Right so long story short, (probably won't be short), me and my partner have been together for 2 and a half years. We have had some really rough patches. One of the worst patches was in march time, and caused us to argue constantly and everything about our relationship was a misery. Although we never split up officially, it was really off, and was so for a few weeks.

During this time, today I have discovered that my partner met a woman twice and had sex with her on both occasions. Nothing more than this, and has had no contact with her since. He also claims it was just sex and nothing more, no feelings etc etc.

In the June my partner and I had finally sorted everything and he moved in with me. We have never been better. Only ever have arguments over the norm petty couple things. We have built up a relationship like never before and at the moment (well before I found out this) I was the happiest and we most loved up we have ever been. Also in September I found out I was pregnant, and he has been even more amazing ever since. Before we sorted things, there was no romance at all, and now I feel like it's only the beginning of our relationship. (You know them loved up feelings you get right at the start)

I just don't know what to do. Is it fair that I end our relationship over this now or is it too late? I really am truly heartbroken even though it was months ago. If I'd of found out this around the time it would be a completely different story. I don't know if to believe the "once a cheat always a cheat" saying, or if to give him a chance as we have been so good and are now expecting. I don't think I could trust him for a while, and every time I think about it I feel like my heart has been ripped from my chest. I wouldn't of even considered doing anything to that extent no matter what, even though we was really bad.

What is the right thing to do?sad

PirateCatOvenGloveOption Sun 23-Oct-16 07:03:46

You were on a break. You could have done the same but didn't.. He hasn't cheated he was a free agent surely or am I missing something?

Bubblegum18 Sun 23-Oct-16 07:29:42

If you had broken up that's different if it's break then I would question why he would rush into someone else's arms.

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