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When should you give your opinion?

(4 Posts)
user1468321775 Sat 22-Oct-16 13:53:33

I'll keep this a brief as possible...

Shortly before their wedding (a few weeks) my husbands brother started confiding in him that his fiancé had started staying out all night after nights out with friends/colleagues. I think he was just having a moan but it clearly was enough of an issue to discuss (he's usually a silent worrier).

Anyway, hubby tried not to get too involved and left them to sort it out themselves. Fast forward 6 months and she's doing it again...out fri and sat nights and not coming home until 7/8am with not so much as a text message. Add to that the random, seemingly unconnected men adding her on FB afterwards and the often 'dodgy excuses'.

He doesn't think she's cheating, but he does recognise this isn't great behaviour. She's always been one for enjoying attention.

My question is when should/should we ever be honest with him in how this looks and that her behaviours is ridiculous? She is begging him to start a family but in my opinion this is not the kind of basis you want to have when you start a family!!

Costacoffeeplease Sat 22-Oct-16 14:02:42

Keep out of it, it's not your business how it looks. He's a grown man, I assume?

RunRabbitRunRabbit Sat 22-Oct-16 14:08:19

Never. Unless directly asked.

He has all the information himself already. You telling him won't change anything. There's none so blind as those that will not see.

TheNaze73 Sat 22-Oct-16 14:31:45

It's up to her how she lives his life & up to him, whether or not it's acceptable. He's not 4

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