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Totally miserable

(3 Posts)
miserablehr Thu 20-Oct-16 19:23:24

I'm really struggling at the moment, both me and husband have gone to therapy but I'm still so unhappy in the relationship. I feel like I'm the only adult and while none of his behaviour is completely unacceptable (no affairs, violence, belittling behaviour) I've been telling him on an almost daily basis that I'm unhappy and nothing changes. He always comes back with excuses about why I'm wrong, or what has done and is totally incapable of listening. I feel like this is a bad reason to break up our marriage for the sake of our son (toddler) but I don't know what else to do. I'm a SAHM and I feel worthless as he is pretty much the main adult relationship I have. I've threatened to leave multiple times and felt suicidal before as I'm so ignored. He is getting on and doing some cleaning now, which is a big step forward but I also asked him to take a real honest look at our relationship and why I might feel like this - he walked out of the room and said nothing.

Msqueen33 Thu 20-Oct-16 19:28:51

My dh is lazy. He works in a busy job but really enjoys it but puts in very little at home (I'm a sahm to three and two have autism). I feel trapped as financially I have nothing. If I were you I'd be inclined to leave. If therapy hasn't changed anything then I'd say it's end of the line. He can't and won't change.

wheelwithinawheel Thu 20-Oct-16 19:37:25

I left, under similar circumstances. Couldn't be happier. Do it now before your toddler gets any older. Life's too short, it really is!

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