Mums, countrywomen, lend me your thoughts,
I am a 30 year old male and I am posting this query here as I would like to hear womens' thoughts.
A few things about myself:
- I have never had a relationship, unless you count when I was an infant
- I have never asked a girl out
- I am 30 years old and live at home with my father
That is one side of the coin. The other is:
- I am in the top 0.1% of earners in my age bracket
- I am in the top 1% for IQ
- According to a photograph rating website I was in the top 3 or so percent for physical appearance and although I've rarely been to lively night venues, if I do go to them, I get hit on and I have been propositioned for sex about ten times in my life
- I exercise five times a week and am in good physical shape
There is one thing I don't have though and this appears to be one of the most important things women look for these days: confidence with women or 'game'. And the later is not something I want to have. I can tell that when speaking to some women that they see me as inconsequential because I am not an alpha or assertive etc. Any of my other qualities are irrelevant.
In July I signed up to an internet dating website as it seems like the only way I am likely to find someone; and a friend sold it to me that you can find people who are more compatible this way. I got a lot of profile views, but probably due to my profile, which would not be attractive to a lot of women due to my personality type and interests, I didn't get many messages. Of the messages I got that I replied to, only one replied back. And we had so much in common (and there are not many people who would) and had some great, lengthy conversations. We agreed to meet and it went well, though towards the end I thought I sensed she was not interested, but it could easily have been her nerves. We exchanged a few more messages after and everything seemed good, but then there was nothing for three weeks. I got a message after three weeks saying "sorry I have problems at the moment, I will email you when I can." But I sensed this may have just been an attempt to give me a very soft brush off. Ten weeks later, I've not heard from her.
I'm very busy with work and don't have the time to throw away looking for first dates that will go nowhere.
In short I'm of zero interest to women who are looking for exuberance, fast times etc. I can be exciting and funny, but I tend to need to get to know people before I show those sides of myself. I am a stable guy, a gentleman, the type of guy that girls complain don't exist ... because we are not also alphas.
I am looking for a woman who is also stable and looking for wholesome, real characteristics and to raise a strong family with bright children. From what I have said above, what signs do you think I should be looking for in a woman?