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Sons father taking/selling drugs

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Munchkin1808 Wed 19-Oct-16 11:16:08

Warning this will be long!
I'm 21 and my son is 4 years old, I broke up with my partner last November (he was cheating) he left and started living with various different people, he lost his job, the people he was staying with took drugs, his friends take drugs. Before I realised how he was living his life, he came to visit my son two days a week at my house and had him for one night very two weeks, I would go to my mums whilst he done this. My ex was awful he would find every excuse to have an argument with me, he called me names infront my son whore, pathetic etc. One argument was bad, he called me a whore and I got upset he got hold of me and lifted his hand to punch me, he started shoving me and proceeded to punch a hole in my glass door and son seen everything, I feel awful and feel my confidence has been completely knocked. I stopped him from visitng my house and he was only allowed contact with my son at his sisters. He then got a new girlfriend, and he stopped visitng my son during the week and just had him for the night once a week...which was irregular at times. He and his gf broke up and he then decided he wanted to see my son again during the week, I told him no it was unfair due to my son getting in a state beforehand with missing his dad because there was no routine and we'll stick to the night a week for now until he proves he'll make the effort with him. He hasn't had my son for a month since this conversation. I done something I shouldn't of, I was on my laptop and realised it still had his log in for fb...I wanted to know if the rumours were true about drugs etc it turns out he's been taking them every weekend (various different types) , he's been selling them and on some occasions he's seen my son for a couple of hours when he took them the night before. I'm horrified, I don't know what I'm meant to do! Do I stop visitation? Do I contact a contact centre? I really have no idea what I'm doing. I can't trust him with my son and I don't feel safe anymore, I really need some advice I have no one to help/talk to about it.

Gymnopedies Wed 19-Oct-16 11:26:18

I would ask the police or social services. They should be able to give you expert advice, you need help and support to protect your son and yourself.

lollylou2876 Wed 19-Oct-16 11:29:48

I would stop all visits and go to social services and ask for supervised contact until your child's safety can be guaranteed. If he turns up demanding access ring the police and explain the situation.

GCHQMonitoring Wed 19-Oct-16 11:40:22

Can you get screen shots from facebook where he's discussing his drug use? It will help when you approach SS

Munchkin1808 Fri 21-Oct-16 16:41:53

Hi, sorry for long reply! I have screenshots of all the messages about him taking and selling drugs. I rang social services and they have said they it's basically all upto me and they can't arrange the contact sessions?? They've said I'll have to go to court and sort it from there...has anyone else been through this process?

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