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I's abuse still classed as 'domestic violence/abuse' if you're divorced?

(5 Posts)
redisthenewblack Wed 19-Oct-16 09:59:51

I know this sound stupid and I'll try to keep it short.

ExH is still being emotionally and physically abusive. The latest incident (physically trying to damage DPs car, threatebing myself and DP with violence, admitting hes used a 3rd party to commit other offences 'so I don't get into trouble', etc.) has prompted yet another police visit. They're coming to take a statement at 11.30 this morning.

What are these incidents now classed as? Is it still DV/A? Or is there a different term for it now it's no longer happening within a marriage/relationship?

Google seems to think it could be a Public Order Offence, or Harrassment.

I'd like to be armed with as much information I can, as the police have previously been useless with dealing with him and I'm desperate to have something done this time.

Offred Wed 19-Oct-16 10:06:45

Yes, DA/DV is abuse by a partner or former partner.

DA/DV is not a specific crime so it will be something like criminal damage, harassment, assault etc legally but is also DV/DA as he is a former partner so you should be able to access specialist police DA/DV teams I would think.

He is fucking stupid if he thinks taking other ppl to do stuff will mean he avoids trouble, incidents like that still count as harassment from him if he is inciting then to do it by directly telling them to or indirectly manipulating them with lies. There is no difference between him doing it and him getting other people to do it - he will still be responsible.

redisthenewblack Wed 19-Oct-16 10:19:46

Thank you for responding Offred.

That's what I thought re. getting someone else to do it.

I have recorded evidence of him admitting it on my phone too. As well as text messages threatening violence. hmm he's not very bright

Hopefully the police will take this a bit more seriously this time!

hellsbellsmelons Wed 19-Oct-16 10:38:36

It's criminal damage, threatening behaviour and harassment.
I'm very glad he is your Ex but also very sorry that he's still being such an nasty abusive wanker.
Can you contact Womens Aid and get some sort of restraining order put in place?

Desmondo2016 Wed 19-Oct-16 10:45:03

The police consider it DA if it is between two people over 16 who are or have ever been in a relationship or who are of the same household.

My exh has been significantly abusive this year, 8 years after our split. It's taken me this long to realise just how abusive my marriage was.

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