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How do I resist?

(10 Posts)
user1476719996 Mon 17-Oct-16 17:20:59

Went on a date on Saturday with the most lovely guy ever. Got on really, really well and have arranged another date in a few weeks. The thing is I just cannot stop thinking about him, literally, and it is driving me insane! How do I stop the massive urge I have not to call/text? I do not want to come across as a crazed stalker!

FYI I am not 15 I am 38, kids and divorced! confused

Bob19702 Mon 17-Oct-16 17:23:44

why is the next date in a few weeks , there are no hard a fast rules about dating if you want to drop him a message I am sure he will appreciate it ...

user1476719996 Mon 17-Oct-16 17:26:55

Because we are both busy working away and with family.

Bob19702 Mon 17-Oct-16 17:53:22

He maybe sat thinking exactly the same , nothing wrong in just sending a nice 'how's your day been ' type of message .

Threepineapples Mon 17-Oct-16 18:13:29

I'd text, just keep it low key smile

HandyWoman Mon 17-Oct-16 18:16:24

Oh I feel your pain, OP, first date with bf was a proper coup de foudre followed by a very polite hug then a 12 day wait.. confused


Deffo ok to drop him a text, just as three says, keep it low key is all.

Ooh exciting! grin

user1476719996 Mon 17-Oct-16 18:19:54

Thank you ill ponder it. I really do not want to seem too keen although I so am! I just wish I could turn my mind off.

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam Mon 17-Oct-16 18:21:19

I agree with PP, texting. Are you sure you both have enough time for each other, a few weeks seems too long IMO, is a few weeks meaning more than a month? Who's so busy, him or both of you. I wouldn't want it to be any longer than two weeks for a second date, but that's just me.

user1476719996 Mon 17-Oct-16 18:30:35

Its not this Friday coming the one after. I am away working as well as having to travel with DS for a football tournament. He is also away working in between times so it will be impossible to see eachother. Gutted as I really want to see him badly. I feel 16 again! After 14 years of marriage its all new to me!

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam Mon 17-Oct-16 19:17:52

Right, that's not too bad then, two weeks. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. Good luck to you.

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