My DP found out that his ex (and mother of his children) had a fling with his best friend. It apparently happened months after they split, but my DP had suspicions about them towards the end of the relationship and other things point to them at least having an emotional affair before they split. The ex claims the friend caught her when she was vulnerable from the breakdown from the relationship and he chased her, she's never really taken any responsibility for her actions.
My DP hasn't spoken to his friend since he found out as he suspects his ex has lied about things and he doesn't want to sour the relationship with his ex as they need to get on for the kids sake, by finding out the full truth and that he's much happier now than he was in that relationship anyway so it worked out for the best for him.
His ex was and continues to be manipulative, but my ex doesn't always realise hes been/being manipulated.
Unfortunately, my DPs Mum told me something about the ex that happened while she was still with my DP that shows how manipulative she is but would be proving that the affair happened before the split and that the ex did the chasing. My MIL said she wouldn't tell my DP as it would only make the relationship with the ex worse, but my OH asked my yesterday if his Mum had told him anything about the situation that he didn't know. I hate lying to him but I don't think any good would come of it by telling him, apart from maybe opening my DPs eyes to how manipulative his ex is.
What would you do?
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Should I tell him or stay quiet?
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bluebell9 · 17/10/2016 15:47
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