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WYO on this??

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mumto2two · 17/10/2016 13:29

Just a bit of background..difficult relationship with MIL and SILs
Control freak..overbearing and they are a tight trio. MIL very wealthy..the trio own many homes together and are very adverse to the notion that they would ever have financial set up with a partner..hence they have lived together till recently..now in 40s
One of them decided they wanted a baby..but being too old had to tourist trade for an egg. Found a man willing to donate his bit and viola she has just had a baby. Gave no thought whatsoever to the fact that this child might be interested in wanting to know their genetic origins one day. They went to a country where the law prohibits the child ever having recourse to know.
It's their life etc..but morally I totally disagree, and given the amount of money that's been spent, you can't help thinking they should have at least given the adoption route a try. But of course, it's their life. MIL lives & breathes her 'girls' and this completes the package without having to share them with anyone else. They literally have a little empire..and while his mum is happy to splash her wealth on them, OH has never been given a bean. He never towed the line the way she wanted, and had to literally move abroad to escape her plans for him. Things have been financially awful of late, and our daughter has long term health issues which has been a huge burden, but she has never once offered to help. In fact when she visits (on her agenda not ours) we end up paying for everything while she's here. And that's fair enough, it's his Mum, like it or not! Anyway, We Skyped and sent a congrats card..but haven't sent flowers or anything. I had sent some clothes over a couple of months ago, and things are pretty dire at the moment as it is. Not that it should be relevant either, but sils have never sent anything on the birth of mine, let alone a card! And having lost my last pregnancy at 18 weeks and almost died myself, we had the most insensitive jaw dropping behaviour that I can't divulge on here. MIL dropped a few hints last week about all the lovely flowers that they are getting..OH says just ignore it's not a subtle hint..but this is exactly how she operates, and now, she has sent a thank you for all the lovely flowers email to a few relatives..and 'accidentally' copied me on the email. So what do you think??

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 17/10/2016 17:54

I think you should stay as far away from them as humanly possible.

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Cary2012 · 17/10/2016 18:08

And I agree with RunRabbit...

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Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 · 17/10/2016 18:11

Maybe silently send sympathy for that poor baby growing up in that household..
And sorry for your loss.

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