So I've been with my boyfriend now a few months or so, so not long... but we have always been very happy. I have always had a lot of male friends and he came on a night out with us once...he accused me of having something going on with one of them - he thought we were flirting. I told him it was completely platonic and he said he believed me and I thought things were ok. Since then he seems to have such trust issues. Everything else is amazing except this.
I've never cheated in relationships and I've always been really loyal. I would prefer to break up with someone if I felt the need to cheat because I'd know that this meant I didn't feel that strongly for them, because it isn't in my nature to cheat.
We've had a particularly positive couple of weeks. He even told me he's in love with me. I've literally been floating on air, so so happy.
Then this morning I get a text off him out of nowhere saying he doesn't think it's going to work any more because he doesn't trust me. He thinks I'm cagey with things like my phone, he thinks I'm flirty with my friends (he mentioned the night out thing, he doesn't have anything else to base this on as he doesn't want to do anything with my friends again because of it)...I don't know what I can do, I'm trying so hard to get him to understand the type of person I am and that I am so loyal when I'm in relationships, but words aren't enough. I know the sensible answer is that if he doesn't trust me it won't work, but I just can't bear to lose such a happy, incredible relationship over a complete misunderstanding. I really would never even want to cheat on him, let alone actually do it. I have no idea what to do. How can I make him see that he's got nothing to worry about?
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Lasagne1 · 16/10/2016 17:46
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