I posted a little while ago about a new guy I was seeing and here I am again about the same guy.
I decided to give him more of a chance and things did improve for a short while. My problem is that he wants to see me EVERY SINGLE DAY that I have off work. EVERY DAY!!!!! I feel so stressed out because I'm not getting any free time to do things, I feel constantly busy because if I'm not busy at work I'm busy seeing him. I work shifts (days and nights) and he will even want to see me in the day when I've got a night shift later on.
He will text me saying 'Am I seeing you today?' when we haven't made any plans to, I'll make an excuse and then he'll text me asking if he's seeing me tomorrow. It's absolutely suffocating me.
The problem is he keeps trying to make me feel sorry for him about how he's 'lost everything in his life' (his parents died when he was young), he says he has nothing to live for and is generally quite depressing at times. He seems to mainly talk about this stuff when he can sense I'm being a bit cold. He knows I've been off with him recently and hasn't acknowledged it, I just feel like he's so desperate for a relationship he isn't willing to face any problems out of fear of it ending. I know he had only been single for a maximum of two months before speaking to me and he'd been engaged.
I just want my own space, I have said to him I want to have a big clear out this weekend at my house and he's text me asking if I'm seeing him. Why can't he just accept I've got other stuff to do apart from seeing him? I've been seeing him for just over 8 weeks so it's not normal to want to spend every waking minute together is it? We haven't even had sex for a month because I just have no desire to sleep with him anymore.
I feel so guilty at the thought of dumping him, mainly because of all his depressing talk about how he's cursed and nothing goes right for him. He has actually treated me really well and I don't know if I'm being a bitch by having a problem with how much he wants to see me. I know that other guys have wanted to see me this much and I've been loving it so it's probably more that I'm just not into it. He's told his family about me and wants to take me to a family gathering this month, but I think he just wants a girlfriend I don't know if it's particularly 'me' that he's into. He just needs someone to fill that gap.
I can sometimes beat myself up about things like this and convince myself I've done the wrong thing. He does treat me well but he's so full on and clingy I just don't think I can carry on, it's killed it in a way. Even speaking to him about how I feel probably won't help, it's gone too far for me.
I just needed to rant. Am I being a total bitch?
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Should I dump my super clingy new boyfriend
amypie86 · 14/10/2016 21:55
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