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Relationships

How to deal with feeling jealous?

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Louisajohnson224 · 14/10/2016 14:37

Ok this will sound crazy but I've been on 2 dates with this guy.
We get on well,laughing all the time on the dates etc and after every date he has asked to see me again.
I seen him Sunday,last night and seeing him again on Monday.
Last night he told me a guy who he works with sister has been texting him..he's friend gave her he's number and I'm jealous.
I know I've got no right as we have only been on two dates but I'm hoping they don't start talking and he starts liking her.
I don't know why I'm being stupid but I can't help it.

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ilivehappilyeverafter · 14/10/2016 15:13

He told you to make you jealous, and it's working. But to be jealous after 2 dates is a bit much. Walk away now before you invest anymore with this guy.

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Msqueen33 · 14/10/2016 15:16

Game player! Why tell you?! I would say back off and he's the type to come running. I'd advise not to invest much in this guy for your own sake.

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Happybunny19 · 14/10/2016 15:26

Listen to the wise words above.

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Louisajohnson224 · 14/10/2016 15:42

He is been a perfect gentleman up to now,hasn't tried it on etc
He is the one asking to see me again after the date etc
I think I feel slightly jealous because all of my Exs have had wandering eyes and I'm scared basically to get with or develop feelings for someone else.

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ilivehappilyeverafter · 14/10/2016 16:10

If he was a true gent he would not have told you what he has. In fact a true gent most likely would not entertain anyone else whilst dating you.

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TheNaze73 · 14/10/2016 18:05

I think the complete opposite to what others are saying, I think he's being open & transparent. If this came up at a later date & bit him on the arse, he'd be accused of being deceitful.
Are you exclusive yet?

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Louisajohnson224 · 14/10/2016 18:29

No we aren't exclusive ..
He didn't say it like oh I'm texting bleh blah
He said I don't know why my mates give his sister my number..I said he must be trying to set you up
Then he rolled his eyes
I just really like him ...

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TheNaze73 · 14/10/2016 19:06

Just take it one date at a time OP. Just live for now & don't worry about getting carried away with the future. If you get the "now" right, everything else will fall into place

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Louisajohnson224 · 14/10/2016 19:15

I'm going to try not to get to into it.
He texts and rings me all the time so he seems interested.
How previous Exs have the power to make you crazy

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HandyWoman · 14/10/2016 19:53

Agree with TheNaze this man is probably just being open and relaxed, although it is surprising he dropped this into the convo after just 2 dates. Surely at this point there are more interesting things to talk about? How did it come up?

You are not secure in this early dating phase (who is?!) so that's where the jealous feelings come from. Nothing to overthink here...

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Louisajohnson224 · 14/10/2016 20:05

We were talking about bad dates etc and that's how it was mentioned.
I haven't dated for so long I don't think I even know how anymore.