I see this word used we're told not to settle or others feel the have settled and I don't really know what it means. I am married to a lovely man, I love him I still fancy him, the sex is great and he is kind. However there are things I can't always share with him like my passion for music and literature. I have friends I can share those things with and lots of things my husband and I do enjoy together like cooking, walking, travel and film.
My husband is smart and has an intellectually demanding job which means he isn't always up for a debate about politics or the meaning of life when he gets home and prefer to take it easy. I've had boyfriends in the past who probably gave me more excitment due to them being unpredictable cads thrilling at 20 but not something you would want at 40. Others who challeneged me more mentally, who pushed me more to achieve but they didn't have all the other qualities I needed in a partner like loyalty, kindness and deep love.
Sometimes I get the feeling from other women, magazines and so on that we should all be looking for someone who fufills us totally and meets our every need as well as pushing us to grow etc. To me this seems very unrealistic to expect everything from just one person?
I'm curious what do you think is meant my settling?
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What does settling mean to you?
modernclassic · 12/10/2016 23:08
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