XH has always paid £140/month for DD' maintenance. This just about covers his share (ie 50%) of keeping a roof over her head (mortgage and basic bills for water, electric etc) and feeding her. Nothing else. DD is six and already does two extra curricular activities each week which I pay for. She now wants to add two more. My policy has always been to let her have a go at anything and see how she gets on so I really don't want to be saying no, but it really is starting to add up, especially since two of the activities require specific equipment and therefore extra cost.
What do other people do? It would never occur to him to offer to pay for any of her clubs and there's a part of me that doesn't want to ask. I'm not in regular contact with him as he lives far away so if I was to bring it up with him it would mean a specific phone call or text. Am I within my rights to ask for an extra contribution to cover some of it?
For context, when we agreed the mainentance amount he was working a minimum wage job. He then doubled his earnings but never offered an increase. When I broached it he announced that he was cutting right back with that company and setting up on his own (a hobby which he is convinced will earn him money but basically doesn't) His income is basically probably pretty low and I suspect he would probably use that as a reason to refuse to pay any more.
Thoughts and suggestions would be most welcome!
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