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Why cant I get over him?

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messeduptotally Tue 11-Oct-16 08:46:42

We split up and divorced 2 years ago, all instigated by me. We had been together 15 yrs. We grew apart and I became his mother. The split was difficult and he was angry. We both have new partners now.
I try to be amicable with him about our DD but he continues to let her down and it makes me angry, he's now lying about how serious its getting with his girlfriend and sneaking off away with her. I rely on him for childcare, it makes me angry. Why does he lie?
I have this stupid simmering hope that we would get back together even though he's completely wrong for me and probably me for him, and I'm jeopardizing my new partner.
I've blocked all social media and phone numbers. I cant be amicable with him and don't want to see him.
Why do I keep looking backwards?! How do I get over this?

Unrequitedlove Tue 11-Oct-16 09:01:08

Messed.. I too was in a marriage for the same length of time.. I'm now 7 years post split. I'd say it's taken 2 relationships since then to really feel ready for a new committed relationship now. I didn't realise I wasn't ready at the time. Not to say you're the same.
Think because of your ds you need to try to remain on civil terms before it gets worse. Can you write him an email saying how you feel?

Unrequitedlove Tue 11-Oct-16 09:01:39


messeduptotally Tue 11-Oct-16 09:23:07

Ive tried emailing him and telling him how I feel but he ignores me.

Unrequitedlove Tue 11-Oct-16 09:28:50

Hard isn't it.. my exh went through a stage like that. It's hard but try to keep consistent and civil even if he isn't... that's what I did anyway and all is ok now...

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