ok so i havent worked for 9 years due to mental illness so going back into work is a big thing for me and its going to be working nights 2 nights a week as of yet i don't know which days. my other half rang me while i was out could her 16 year old cousin come and stay the weekend i reluctantly said ok .as i won't be working nights until the following week. but when i got home she said he was coming the next weekend as well with his mum and her aunt.i did know her two aunts was coming to stay as thats been planned for weeks but i know if ive worked a night they will be quiet or go shopping while i sleep the next day. but this cousin of hers is loud when he talks and i know he wont be quiet . its my first job in 9 years getting use to nights and sleeping in the day is going to be hard enough.
i feel like ive been tricked even though my other half said she didnt know he was coming the next weekend as well when she rang to ask me which i don't believe. i would like to add my other half does nothing to help around the home not even wash up and doesnt work. so ive told her she has to get the spare bed ready and cooking etc when her aunts come to stay they really help by washing up etc but i can't see either my other half or her cousin doing this.i've seen him with his own mum,she takes his meals to him in the room,fetches him the ketchup or whatever . he will only eat a expensive brand of bread etc . so basically i don't want him here two weekends my other half said i had already said yes but like i told her i didnt know when she first asked he was coming the next weekend as well . the last time he came a few years ago he spilt coco cola on my new white duvet cover that never came out and on the floor of the guest bedroom but didnt clean it up or tell me. he kept saying he was bored etc we took him into town he whinged he was hungry i offered to buy him some sandwiches but he said no because they wasn't branded make. arghhhh. but my main worry is if i work a night the second weekend he is coming i'm not going to be able to sleep the next day and be too tired to work the next night and loose my job its 11 hour shift.
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cuddly61 · 10/10/2016 09:53
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