I met this guy in the summer on Tinder. We spent a weekend seeing each other and spending time together at his initiation. He was all over me, talking about future dates. I was surprised by his enthusiasm.
Went quiet for a short time but got in touch fairly quickly and we met again. When we met again had a great time, drinks in a very nice place and we were going to go for food later and he paid, etc. Very gentlemanly and paid me lovely compliments.
He said that he was so sorry for distance he has been so busy at work. He said that he was happy to see me again and we should keep doing it as we get on so well and are really compatible.
He said that he was coming off tinder, he wasn't going to date anymore as he didnt like it. He liked me is what he was trying to say (his words). He said he wanted to date but didnt want to get involved in something heavy very quickly and just enjoy. He'd been single for 3-4 years and because of the nature of his long hours he has let people down last minute and they've gone nuts and so he doesnt want something serious.
He said I dont have to come off tinder if I don't want to but he has deleted the whole thing. he said again later we really should meet again, now he is off tinder and we get on well and I am so cool.
I was ok with just dating for now without expecting a relationship s I liked his company. I was ok with seeing him now and again. He kept labouring the point that he was off tinder. He no longer appeared as a match of mine at this point.
Just downloaded tinder again for another try as he has not been in touch. Guess who I found? He has even changed his photos. So still an active user.
Why why WHY do they have to tell so many lies. I feel like an idiot. If he had just said he wanted to meet me without any expectations, I would have been ok as I was liking the company. But he has to mention future meetings, even something way off in the future he was talking about.
Why do they have to talk a load of shit and now I feel like an idiot. He didnt even have to mention coming off tinder, I wasnt going to ask.
I feel like superliking so he knows I know he is still there. kidding.
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I feel so stupid
QueenLizIII · 10/10/2016 02:01
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