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It's over. He's left. Feel sick.

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Hoppityfuckingvoosh Sat 08-Oct-16 20:36:55

Previous Threads from earlier in the year/ month/week are there if you can be bothered looking.

It wasn't working. He doesn't love me the way I need him to. I watched him pack up his stuff and we're both in tears as DS dances oblivious in the background (small mercies, I suppose). We're both devastated that the life we wanted for DS isn't going to happen.

I don't want him to go but I know it's not going to get better. It's been 18 months of no affection or acknowledgement that I'm more than just DS mum. We've talked and talked, had counselling (not much because he felt it wasn't working or moving us forward) and it's clear that the love he once felt has gone. I'm a shell of myself-self-esteem at rock bottom, sad all the time.

Maybe the break will make him see that he does love me, make him change. Realistically, he'll miss DS desperately and having a comfortable home. I think he will miss me but because we've been together forever, I don't think he'll miss me the "right" way.

I'm so sad. Sorry for the outpouring but I'm sitting alone and I don't know what else to do

honeyroar Sat 08-Oct-16 21:10:59

I'm sorry. I'm not sure if I've read your previous threads, but it sounds like, even though it hurts now, it will be the best thing for you all in the long run. You seem to have both tried before coming to this conclusion. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself time. Your son still has a mum and dad that loves him and wants the best for him, and his parents may well end up happier apart.

user1471544305 Sat 08-Oct-16 21:19:34

Time to review your life and move on when you have grieved. People do fall out of love you can't stay together for children it isn't fair. You could become good friends though and share parenting no doubt make better parents for your son

LeopardPrintSocks1 Sat 08-Oct-16 21:22:51

I'm right with you. I have two dc 4 and 9 months later. It's heartbreaking. Mine was detached and then hit me so he's out on Tuesday. I'm thinking how to tell ds and it's grinding me up inside. Sending love flowers we deserve better

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