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Dont want this anymore but don't know what to do

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Disappearingchocolates · 04/10/2016 23:42

The happy, fun, mature, sweet guy i thought my dp was when first started dating was all a show. He cares more about being successful than anything else even though he denies it, he cant do anything for himself ie clean the bathroom after himself, change a lightbulb etc, he has mood swings (not abusive at all, but very stressful), he only seems to want to communicate if its about getting a better job or sex. And we are so different, we want different things in life. I want to have a laid back life, spend as much time as possible with my children, enjoy life and be stressfree. He will stress about every little thing and moan about stuff that's not inportant at all, he will always do things the hard way or make things difficult and i just dont understand it. Also its one rule for him, one rule for everyone else and he doesn't see it. I realise now the laid back cool guy- it was all an act. He has pretty nuch admitted to this as his family even told him no one will put up with his ways. I've given up my home to live with this guy and have nowhere to go, but i cant stay in the relationship he stresses me out so much and its making me feel depressed. Everytime i talk to him about it im either ignored , told im being horrible (for saying im not happy), or told things will change which lasts about an houe at most. He has done a lot for me and my kids and I'm greatful but i cant be in a relationship that feels like all business no pleasure if that makes sense. Really feel so stuck.

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Canyouforgiveher · 04/10/2016 23:46

you are not stuck. You are an adult and you can just say goodbye and move on. Maybe you have to sort some logistical stuff first but you don't have to stay in a relationship that isn't working.

And being in a relationship is supposed to be nicer than being single. It is supposed to add happiness etc to your life, even if you sometimes argue. This one is dismal for you. Plan your exit. Feel no guilt.

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SandyY2K · 05/10/2016 07:26

Start making plans to move out fast.

I know it's done now, but when you have kids I just don't think it's a good idea to give up your home to live with a man who isn't their father.... you can end up feeling trappedif it doesn't work out.

How long were you together before you moved in with him?

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Cabrinha · 05/10/2016 07:29

So what stops you moving out again?

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TheNaze73 · 05/10/2016 07:48

What on earth is stopping you? Whilst I have full admiration for anyone that is driven, if it's at the expense of a relationship, I'd have to bin them off

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