I've just seen the thread about married sex and its v similar to what I was about to post but not quite so here goes...
Some days I how badly feel like having the DC has killed our relationship. I wonder if we will ever get back to the way we were before being parents and feel this longing - not to be carefree or younger again, or not to have the DC who we adore - but for the way our relationship was then.
We kept up with current affairs and had conversations about stuff in the news. We went out to concerts and for drinks and to sports games. We watched loads of telly and got info box sets - this is the one thing we still manage to do! We had sex!!!
Now it's more like we're colleagues and not even ones who even like each other much. We're not physically affectionate, we don't cuddle in bed, even when watching TV I've noticed that we used to both sit on the big sofa together and now DH has moved to the small one. We sometimes don't even kiss hello and goodbye when he goes to work. Sex is about once a month, if that! Tbf our youngest is 6 months so it's only recently I've felt back to normal in that way and I thought he'd be really pleased but DH now seems less interested than I was when she was a newborn!
I just want to get an idea really of how normal all this is as its getting me down. We tried to talk about it the other night but it made me feel worse as DH said he thought we should be 'beyond' fancying each other and that he doesn't even really think about whether he's still attracted to me. We're only 35, I think we need to get that spark back but am so lost for time, energy, ideas.
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If you have very small DC - how is your relationship?! (Mine is pants)
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PenelopeChipShop · 04/10/2016 12:02
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