Well, obviously I can, but I'm wondering if people think it is wise.
I had another thread (which I'll try to link to below) about my dilema re staying with my partner who has chronic health problems. We have discussed some of the issues, although not really resolved them, plus I think he has got the wrong end of the stick a bit and thinks it's all about finances, which it isn't.
Things I want to say to him are:
I cannot cope with the frequency of sex we have now.
I find it difficult to come home from an interesting and productive day at work, and all you want to talk about (apart from house renovations, which admittedly are important and time consuming), is computer games. I know the house stuff is important but it bores me. And the computer games makes me sad because it is such a waste of time.
I will try hard to get my head around the possibility of you being a sahd if we have children, but
A) I need you to at least try to work, otherwise I will feel resentful
B) I'm scared that if things go tits up with our relationship then you would get custody of any children. You already own the house outright, so if I ever left I would have to move out and leave you and then there while I support you all. That would be shit.
These are all quite brutal topics. I feel I need to discus them but am useless at having these conversations without being either a pushover or a bitch.
Any advice? Please don't be too harsh. I honestly don't want to hurt my dp. I am crap at this.
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Can I say this to dp?
BrianaTheBadger · 02/10/2016 17:09
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