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Today a grew son balls!

(10 Posts)
ministerscat Sun 02-Oct-16 12:03:38

After worrying about my husband saying he doesn't love me and doesn't know what he wants from life, I spent a week feeling awful and trying to listen to his problems, give him space and at times reason with him. Had enough of that shite. I've now bagged his stuff up and told him he has to go. He's worried about where he's going to stay and I know he wants me to say he can stay till he sorts himself out but his behaviour this week has been selfish and uncaring. If the shoe was on the other foot, and it had been me who had fallen out of love with him, I would at least have considered his feelings and been kind to him. He has just come and gone as he pleases, leaving me to do everything for the kids and our other commitments.
Yes, things are going to be hard with young children but I think I can do it and I look forward to the future without another big child to look after! Not sure why I'm writing this really but there it is. Hooray for me!

ministerscat Sun 02-Oct-16 12:04:44

**some balls! Damn predictive text!

ravenmum Sun 02-Oct-16 12:20:26

Can he go and stay at a relative's / girlfriend's place? He is being a shit and it's good that you recognise that, but don't get dragged down to his level. Show that you are the bigger person by at least making sure he has a place to stay before you change the locks.

keepingonrunning Sun 02-Oct-16 12:21:13

What he said is often code for "I've got an OW".
I'm glad you are being assertive regardless. Free yourself to find someone who values you.

Iamdobby63 Sun 02-Oct-16 12:36:41

Good for you! Stay strong. 💐

RealityCheque Sun 02-Oct-16 12:41:29

If he had any balls he would tell you to jog on and that he would stay in HIS house. It IS half his, after all.

gertyglossop Sun 02-Oct-16 12:45:34

You are my hero! How dare he drop that on you and then expect to enjoy his home comforts while going out doing his own thing, leaving you in turmoil??

You won't regret your decision, but he may well regret his.

Good on you! Keep strong! flowers

Branleuse Sun 02-Oct-16 12:46:17

im sorry youre going through this bullshit, but you sound great and very strong. Good for you!! x

ministerscat Sun 02-Oct-16 20:50:05

Thanks for replies and support and realitycheque, gave me a laugh!smile

SandyY2K Sun 02-Oct-16 20:54:35

Well done to you. Enough of his wishy washyness.

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