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Husband addicted to porn & now looking for escorts?

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Lilliepillie Sun 02-Oct-16 04:45:03

Hi, Iv been with my husband 4 twenty yrs, two kids, husband has worked away for most of our time together & I knew he watched porn but I have just found out that he is addicted to porn & has been looking & thinking about using a escort service??
We have been struggling for the past few years but I thought I knew were I stood with him but now I don't? He has booked him self in to a psychiatric that deals with this stuff wich is good but he works atm in a country full of desperat Asian women & I now have my doubts that he has been faithful to me, he said he has??
We have a good life together but how do I get through this & what would any one els do? I can't tell any of my friends because I'm to emotional & embarrassed.
Any advice welcome

LellyMcKelly Sun 02-Oct-16 05:00:12

How did you find out he was looking for escorts?

MoominKitten Sun 02-Oct-16 05:08:57

flowers

Porn addiction would be a deal breaker for me, escorts just totally off the scale really.

I'm sorry you're having to face this, it must be horrendous.

It is good that he is seeking help. But I think it might be best for you to consider what your own boundaries are independently on that fact.

Sadly, I think your first practical step is an STD test.

MoominKitten Sun 02-Oct-16 05:10:31

Independently of that fact I.e. You need to think of your own needs and feelings, not just go into being supportive to him, and/or thinking that there is no problem, either now or in the past, just because he is seeking help now.

Lilliepillie Sun 02-Oct-16 06:14:15

I found sites on his iPad for local escorts & esorts company's for were he travels to.

Lilliepillie Sun 02-Oct-16 06:15:58

He admitted to me that he was thinking about using escort services & about his porn addiction. It's like Iv been married to another person.

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