I will try to keep this brief. Basically my best friend has told me she's unhappy in her 11 year marriage and they had a chat agreeing to give it 6 months. That was about two months ago. Anyway I didn't think they were right for each other ( night before they got married I asked was she sure about it) her mum did the same , however they have my goddaughter together and they seemed pretty ok. He's had to work away this past year and half in the week. Anyway I supported her with this and hoped they might work through it but was behind her if she decided to separate. Last week changed everything because she told him she wanted to separate ( without giving it the 6 months ). She blurted it out when he came home with a watch for her as a belated anniversary gift. I've now found out she sleeping with someone else. I'm really upset that she's made this decision with someone else involved. I can't get my head around the fact she's essentially having an affair and really her husband didn't have a proper chance of rectifying things as there's emotions involved with this other guy. He's told her he loves her and she feels she is falling in love. She hasn't made this decision with a clear head in my opinion. Am I being totally unreasonable , I know this happens and I know that staying in an unhappy marriage is not right but I just wish there wasn't someone else in the picture. At the end of the day surely the child comes first and she should be honouring her vows enough to separate before getting involved with this other man?
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