Last posts detailed the crap nature of my marriage.
To cut a long story short, DH has been detaching himself from me for years. DS is 3 and since his birth there has been next to no intimacy: no sex, hand-holding, hugs, meaningful chat etc. it's perfectly cordial-we get on great-but it's very lonely.
We've talked repeatedly and he's promised (we both have) to make more of an effort. I do, he doesn't, then I stop trying because I feel miserable and rejected.
It's all come to a head and he's basically told me he's not sure he loves me anymore. None else on the scene, that much I'm sure of. He just feels like we've drifted and he doesn't have the energy to try. He's openly stated that if it wasn't for DS we wouldn't be together.
We've started counselling. I want it to work. I think there's love still there and I don't want to disrupt DS unless absolutely necessary. It's not a pleasant experience.
We're tired, busy and it's was very much survival mode for the first 18 months of DS's life. I think that after so long we've just got very lazy.
So I'm wondering how many folks have experienced this, and how many of you resolved the issues or split?
Will we get back on track? Obviously it's dependent on the people involved, but is what we're experiencing a common thing?
Half the time I'm telling myself that we're done, the other half I'm thinking that I'm not ready to give up on this. We get on well, functional as a family unit well...am I expecting too much?
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Hoppityfuckingvoosh · 29/09/2016 18:45
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