Supposed to be getting married in 10 days

[PixieMiss]

I thought after a number of shite years I had found some happiness but no, of course not.

He just punched me while our 6 month old was watching in his Baby Bjorn. I can't stop crying

Don't know why I'm posting. I just don't want to be alone.

[NapQueen]

Oh god I'm so sorry.

We are all here to keep you company.

Do you want to talk about it?

[dontpokethebear]

Time to cut loose. No matter how 'sorry' he might claim to be, he'll probably do it again.
Is there anywhere you can go?

[slightlypeevedwombat]

ok - well the first thing you need to do is get yourself to safety

is he still there?

[slightlypeevedwombat]

DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! whatever you do - he punched you!

[guineapig1]

Please make sure you and your little one are safe. Just make any excuse to get you both out of the house. If he goes out lock yourselves in. Please contact the police as soon as you are able to. They will be able to help. Do you have any friends or family nearby you can contact?

Don't marry him - he won't change.

[PixieMiss]

He took our son to the post office, he will be about half an hour.

I don't have anywhere ideal to go but can make it work. What about my son? He won't me take him.

[DoItTooJulia]

What RL support do you have? Phone a friend/relative and tell them everything.

Can you leave right now?

[DoItTooJulia]

While he is gone pack essentials into a bag and phone someone. Just take your son and leave as soon as he's back. Go to a police station or a public place until someone can get to you.

[abbsismyhero]

Call the police

[PixieMiss]

You are all so right but I'm scared.

It was supposed to be a lovely family home but now what? Its all my fault.

Yesterday my beautiful baby boy rolled off the bed and bumped his head. We both cried. It looks a bit bruised today. He said people will see it and think I am an unfit mother and hes right. I turned my back on him for a second

[myfriendnigel]

At the earliest opportunity remove yourself and your son to somewhere safe. Do this without telling him you are doing it, that's important.
Then report what has happened to the Police.As soon as you can.
If you have someone that can help you then ring them and explain and ask them to come and be with you.But if not, and I know this will be hard, then you will have to be brave and just go.
You don't have to make any long term choices now.But you do need to make yourself and your child safe for now.

[DoItTooJulia]

Are you staying then? Because that's a really bad idea.

Do you have any RL support?

[myfriendnigel]

It's not your fault.whatever you may or may not have done (or what he says you've done) there isn't ever any justification for violence.
No one will think you are an unfit mother because your child rolled off the bed once.

[Florene]

Ring the police now whilst he is out. Tell them he hit you when the baby was there. Tell them when he will be back.

When they come to arrest him you can then leave with your son. And you will have more time to do so.

[dontpokethebear]

He has punched you in front of your ds. If it continues as ds grows up, it will become a normal part of his life and he won't think anything of telling friends and family that daddy hits mummy (which is what happened with my dsis). Or he will live in fear. Harsh but true. You owe it to your son for him to be brought up in a loving and SAFE home.

Each of my dc have rolled off the bed, it's almost a right of passage.

[CodyKing]

DS also fell off the bed - it happens they bounce quite well

You need to leave

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

You are not to blame! Accidents happen, you do not punch someone for making a mistake. Please talk to someone in rl

[GeekLove]

You have 10 days not to get married. He will not get better.
And it is never your fault for someone else's actions. You did not make him do it.
THis is who he is.

[Wolfiefan]

He won't let you take your child? Call the police. He needs to leave.

[PotteringAlong]

All of my children have fallen off the bed. I'd hazard a guess that 95% of all children have fallen off the bed. The vast majority of people do not punch their fiancées.

Look at the positive - better today than in 14 days time when you were married to the bastard.

Pack a bag, call the police,

[Mintychoc1]

loads of babies roll off beds, it happens all the time. Trust me there isn't a social worker on the planet who would consider that an indicator of poor parenting. However, exposing a child to domestic violence is a reason for social services involvement, so your partner is the one who is an unfit parent, not you.

[Starfish28]

Both my children have rolled off the bed it happens. Please don't stay with an abusive man. Call the police now and explain or a friend. Get out ASAP. It is never, ever your fault

[bumblingmum]

all babies roll off some kind of furniture. Both of mine did it. I am not a terrible mother and neither are you. He is a terrible person and under no circumstances is it ok to punch another person.
Get somewhere safe with your baby, even if you cant leave with possessions, someone can hopefully collect those for you later.

[Mishaps]

Just go - no ifs, no buts, just leave with your son when he is out of the house.

He's playing with your mind - you are not a bad mother - all mine fell of the bed and other things, and yes, they bounced.

[Onenerfwarfrombreakdown]

^ exactly what mintychoc said, my DS and nearly every other child I've ever known has given every parent a scare by rolling off something/pulling themselves up on something/reaching something/unlocking a door etc before the parents realised they were capable. It's completely NORMAL. Minor bumps and bruising are a totally normal part of a child growing up - dear lord, I was at A&E 3 times in less than 6 months with DS with various injuries (fell off a fence, got stood on in a game of football, ran slap bang into a large branch of tree) and nobody batted an eyelid.

BUT your "partner" is abusive. He's hit you. This is not allowed. Call the police. They will deal with him. He can't stop you taking your son to a safe place. You are the mother, the main carer for a small baby, the law is on your side. I know it's terrifying but the future will be worse. Please get help. Do NOT continue this relationship. He thinks because the wedding is so close you wouldn't dare call it all off so he can treat you any way he wants to. Show him, for the sake of your son to have a chance of a decent life, he's wrong.