Hey. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 6 months. We are very happy and much in love with plans for the future. Both late 20's.
Before we met, my boyfriend had been messaging another girl who he had met online (lives around 50 miles away). I'm not aware that they ever actually met one another but they had plans to do so and he bought gig tickets for them both but she always stood him up. When he met me he text this girl to say he won't be speaking to her no more in that sense. Anyway, I have since seen him texting this girl but he's done it in front of me so not secretive or anything. However, yesterday morning we was looking at his calendar on his phone to make some plans and there was an event that said I love you. I asked what it was and he dismissed it. It bothered me all day so I brought it up to him and he said it was a recurring event that she invited him to a few years ago and it was the date that she first said I love you to him. I find it weird cos they never met/slept together/kissed but I was annoyed that her feelings were obviously so strong for him and they're still in touch. He said she's having a rough time and he felt mean not speaking to her and he was just trying to do the right thing and being nice by trying to cheer her up.
Ultimately though he said he's been nice to her, someone who doesn't mean anything to him and has hurt and upset me, the person who means everything to him. He's apologised and said he will text her today to say it has to stop.
I was really upset last night but now I feel mean and guilty as though I was over reacting. Have I been a bit over the top here or would you guys feel the same way? He did say he wouldn't like it if I was texting a guy with history between us both so he said he totally understands where I'm coming from but I don't want him to think he can't speak to another girl - it's just this situation I find strange.
Thanks for listening.
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AIBU? Boyfriend texting a girl he had a thing with in the past.
eirrah · 26/09/2016 10:00
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