He popped out to a friends birthdays drink taking our family car at 8pm, saying he'd be back in a hour. He called me at 10.30ish saying he'd be back soon and I'd cooked him some food for when he got in.
I'd had a busy day with our four kids (9,5,4&4) so I went to bed around 11ish. I didn't call him as I thought let him stay and enjoy himself, he was only drinking lemonade so I wasn't worried about him driving home.
2am my twins come into my bedroom. I wake up and realise he's not home, I ring him repeatedly and his phone is off.
I fall back to sleep eventually and wake at 8am and his phone is now just ringing out. I get hold of him 8.30ish, he claims he was at his mums.
It took all day but at around 4pm, he admits he met some woman and went back to hers. They slept together. He destroyed our family.
He had nothing left to lose by telling me. I threw him out this morning when he didn't return. I'm not stupid.
I don't know why I've even come here. I don't need anyone to tell me to leave him, I've done that. My life is in bits. I was just starting to get some of it back after battling a brain tumour last year and seeing my twins finally go off to school. I had a bit of time for me again. I haven't been able to have sex with him since last June. I fell ill in July over night, nearly died, was diagnosed with a tumour, had surgery all within a month. I was put on steroids and other antiseizure drugs and have ballooned by over 3st. I feel disgusting. I told him when he'd try and initiate sex, that it was me and how I felt about my self that was the problem. Maybe I should feel grateful he waited a year before doing it.
He's all I've known since I was 18, I'm 30 now. I loved him so much.
I'm so sad for my family. I'm so worried for our future. I can't support us on my own. My tumour is likely to come back. It's such a bloody mess and I don't think I can cope.
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