I have been with my partner for 18 months. We both have children, don't live together & due to distance/work manage to see each other about twice a week. Although separated from his STBXW he has only recently moved out of the family home.
A few weeks ago he was overseas for work & suggested I pick him up on his return & for me to book a hotel for the night. He said there was no rush to get back the next day and we could make a day of it - long leisurely breakfast followed by a walk etc.
I booked a gorgeous hotel, preened myself & duly picked him up - an hrs drive for me. I arranged drinks, dinner & food that I know he liked.
The hotel and afternoon was amazing & all was going great until he said "oh, hope this doesn't mess with your plans but I have decided to leave at 7am (actually I was to drive him back) as I think I need to get back to help with the children (he has 3)" - I kinda threw a wobbly & created an argument which ruined our time. I completely understand his children come first as mine would & now feel irrational about it.
However, the next day he messaged me to say '' Mrs has suggested I stay at the house tonight as it would save me driving back & forth but she is going out so I get to spend quality time with the 2 Ds & 1DD"
I said "i bet she has no intention of going out"
Anyway she didn't go out - I knew this before he told me as I only 1 very late message. She knows all about me.
I then get a photo from him of the breakfast table - "look what I have to deal with !!"
So they then have a family lunch before he then meets me for a very quick very late drink (35 minute drive)
I just feel incredibly pissed off - like a casual observer with their nose pressed up against the cake shop window.
Am I being unfair to him & did I over react ?
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Unreacting ?
user1474842169 · 25/09/2016 23:43
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