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Met up with ex and now feel weird

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Teaandcakeat8 Sun 25-Sep-16 16:52:15

About three years ago I fell for a guy that I knew through work; we dated for a few months then he ended it and moved away for a new job. I was devastated for ages and I guess I always thought of him as the one that got away. Throughout my next relationship I held a candle to him and constantly compared and it probably contributed to the break up.

Recently this guy got back in touch and we ended up meeting on Friday evening. I was really excited about it but when we met up I felt kind of flat. I was surprised to find that I don't fancy him so much anymore... We ended up sleeping together but still the spark had gone (for me).

I don't think his intentions were to get back with me but he did tell me he hasn't slept with anyone else since me which I find slightly odd.

Am I weird for feeling upset/strange about the whole thing? I have recently broken up with another man who I was really into and now I feel even more sad about that because it's highlighted to me how much of a spark we had.

SandyY2K Sun 25-Sep-16 17:48:23

He's not had sex in 3 years? Why? Not met anyone he liked enough?

If you aren't feeling it with him ... don't sleep with him again .. Unless you want a FWB of course.

Teaandcakeat8 Sun 25-Sep-16 18:49:23

I think he just hasn't met any but I still think 3 years is a long time for a 30 year old guy who lives in a large city.

He's good looking but this has turned me off...

BolshierAryaStark Sun 25-Sep-16 18:52:27

You built him up into something he's not, hence the disappointment.
Is there a particular reason for the breakup with the guy you were really into? Can't you get in touch with him & give it another go?

teaandcakeat8 Sun 25-Sep-16 18:59:57

The other guy moved away too.. seems like a recurring theme in my dating history! Sadly there's no way that one will work out so back to square one...

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