About six months ago the toilet stopped flushing properly/taking an eternity to refill. DP had his plumber friend come take a look who advised a replacement part at around £60. Our house was up for sale at the time and DP had vague ideas about replacing the bathroom so just left it as it was still vaguely working. Time passed, nothing happened despite my nagging. The house has finally sold and we are due to move in a month. Today the toilet broke completely, plumber friend can't fit us in until Wednesday. DP can't understand why I'm annoyed, how on earth was he supposed to know this would happen
I'm furious, it's typical behaviour from him. He has no common sense, it seems, as well as a complete lack of initiative. When it comes to anything practical or involving any level of organisation I have to be there constantly prompting and nagging him. He once drove his car untaxed for 4 months and claimed I should have reminded him. I couldn't even drive at the time! Another example was when he had to organise currency for a foreign trip. He told me he'd done it (he hadn't) but then left it too late for our post office to order any in so we ended up paying a bloody fortune at the airport to have some for when we landed.
He is fantastic in other ways, brilliant with the kids, a very loving partner and father, supportive, kind, funny, we love spending time together. I just feel like all of the responsibility for planning/organising/fixing etc all falls to me and I can't rely on him. We are moving house soon and getting married next year but I'm finding that this is becoming a bigger and bigger problem for me. His DM very much rules her own marriage, FIL constantly bossed around, not trusted etc. He had an affair a couple of years ago because he was sick of being bossed around. This is the absolute last thing I'd want in my own marriage but I feel we are slipping into those roles somehow anyway? I don't know what to do. I don't want to be bossy/nagging but it just doesn't get done otherwise!
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WinterIsHereJon · 25/09/2016 14:41
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