Stbexh has the dc on Saturday afternoons.
Today ds didn't want to go - partly because stbexh wouldn't say where they were going and partly cos he wanted to go out with his friends instead. Stbexh got really shitty but finally conceded that at almost 15 ds could choose.
He insisted dd went with him though. Again wouldn't say where they were going or when they'd be back. Turns out they went to evil ils (where he's living since we split). Ils are interfering and have previously hit ds, purposely made statements to him 'oh you're just like your mother' or 'you can't have your birthday money right now as it will go straight in your mothers purse' among other equally horrid things. They've also had arguments in front of dc where they've thrown things at each other etc. They also obviously favour dd over ds
Am I being unreasonable that if stbexh wants to see kids he can but that I don't want them around ils?
Ds thinks reason his dad didn't say where they were going is cos he knows that if his dad had said then he would def have refused to go - he really doesn't like the ils
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Blushingm · 25/09/2016 00:32
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