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I'm trying to be cool but on the verge of becoming irrational

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user1474669297 Fri 23-Sep-16 23:32:17

So there's this guy I like, well really like. We hit it off at first, messaging all the time. We met again...hooked up, conversation still good but not as much ie he now takes hours or even a day to's annoying.

So making plans to meet up on Saturday, no time or place confirmed. So I message on what's app asking we still reply at all considering he'd been on whatsapp a few times after my message was sent but doesnt say read but has received (he's done this quite a lot recently with my messages)Should I just cut my losses and take a hint?

I'm getting irrational and the kind of person to just delete him from all my social media platforms.confused

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna Fri 23-Sep-16 23:58:15

Block, delete and move on! He's wasting your time. When a man truly wants to be with you, NOTHING and NO ONE will stand in his way, I've learnt this the hard way, i.e. living in hope! Save yourself.

Ptarmigandancinginthegloaming Sat 24-Sep-16 00:05:42

I agree, you've asked and he's ignoring you. Don't contact him again - you'll look a bit desperate. For whatever reason, he's wandered off; u could possibly persuade him to meet, but there's not much point if he's not interested enough to answer, and he's likely go back to ignoring u afterwards. Write him off, and I hope u find someone nicer :-)

Hissy Sat 24-Sep-16 09:43:22

You have your answer love.

Ditch and Move on. Best case He's trying to make plans elsewhere And you're the back up.

Mummydummy Sat 24-Sep-16 09:46:16

Yup I went out with that bloke. Ditch...

flumpybear Sat 24-Sep-16 09:51:08

Fgs don't chase him confused

Bagina Sat 24-Sep-16 09:59:47

He's waiting to see what his mates are up to on Saturday, or waiting for a better offer generally. Either way he's not snapping you up, so move on. If they're interested, you usually can't get rid of them!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sat 24-Sep-16 10:03:04

Just forget about him, it shouldn't be this much hard work.

AyeAmarok Sat 24-Sep-16 10:03:34

Yep, move on.

He shouldn't need to be badgered and cajoled into responding or meeting up for a date.


His loss.


TheNaze73 Sat 24-Sep-16 10:04:56

He's waiting to see if he gets a better offer. There should be no game playing or chasing if it's right, it should be easy

hermione2016 Sat 24-Sep-16 10:19:42

So you met, had sex and now he's gone cold? Don't chase, definitely block and move on, no way should you start a relationship like this, he is showing you no respect

MephistoMarley Sat 24-Sep-16 10:23:05

Cut your losses. He's not bothered about you and you deserve much more.

Luvjubs Sat 24-Sep-16 13:11:17

He's not interested and hoping for a better offer. Sorry

SleepingTiger Sat 24-Sep-16 13:15:28

Would it help to make him not the number one priority in your life. Because how can he be this early?

Lillygolightly Sat 24-Sep-16 13:31:51

Someone who doesn't reply immediately or even for hours is not big deal and wouldn't bother me.

Someone who can't be arsed to reply for days is taking the piss.

Forget how good you thought things were, that's what you though and what you felt. If he said he had the same thoughts and felt the same way he is talking bullshit! Anyone who really has thoughts/feelings/cares about you and a possible relationship does not leave you hanging for days for a reply.

Even if you were to start or make a relationship after this on and off contact you've had and this stage, how you do you think that relationship would play out?

Do you think he is someone who would come to help you if you needed?
Do you think you could trust him?
Do you think you could rely on him?
Would he be there for you?

I suspect the answers to all of those questions is no.

Your wasting your time even bothering with him. As others have said block/delete move on and hold your head up high while you at it. The dude is a selfish and unreliable tosser and him not being 'that into you' is no reflection on you, he is not that into anyone and the only person he is 'into' is himself.

Feel lucky that he has shown his true colours before you got in to deep. Take the high road, show the idiot your worth more, deserve more and can get better than him and all he is good for is your trash can. Bin him off grin

user1474669297 Sat 24-Sep-16 19:27:19

Thanks for all the replies. he has this army training on the weekend which is fair enough. Was only told about it a couple days before but still he could of told me. He said he really wants to see me again but has a really bad schedule. I understand people have lives but I think you're right in general, he's not bothered so I shall leave it

CitySnicker Sat 24-Sep-16 19:29:10

Think he had a better offer

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