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Suddenly I'm interested in sex - should I just enjoy it?!

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SecretPrivateThings Fri 23-Sep-16 21:31:29

Just tried to post in sex but not been a member long enough so have toned down my post.

First post in this topic. I've been with DH for 15 years and have never had sex with anyone else. For my whole adult life I have not been particularly interested in sex. Long periods where it actually hurt. If you had told me I would never have sex again that would be fine.

I have two youngish DC and feel a bit as if I am starting to wake up and come out of the fog of tiredness. In the interests of full disclosure I have also had a crush on a female friend during that time and have started to question that side of things but would never act on it since I am married.

Over the last few months I have put more effort into sex with DH and started to really enjoy it and want it more and more.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Do I just enjoy it for what it is? Think DH does not know what has hit him grin. Have head about the peri menopause sex surge and bloody hope it's not that as I am only mid - late thirties.

Shakey15000 Fri 23-Sep-16 21:39:40

Ye Gads, fill your boots woman!

SecretPrivateThings Fri 23-Sep-16 21:40:43

Shakey grin presume I am just overthinking this then?!

ayeokthen Fri 23-Sep-16 21:43:48

I didn't enjoy it until my late twenties (met DP). It was certainly eye opening! As Shakey says, fill your boots!

SecretPrivateThings Fri 23-Sep-16 21:56:20

Yes, eyes definitely opened!

ayeokthen Fri 23-Sep-16 21:57:32

Then go with it and enjoy grin

TheNaze73 Fri 23-Sep-16 22:15:44

Get off of here & enjoy it some more.

dontwannapullahammie Fri 23-Sep-16 22:17:14

I wish I was you! Make the most of it!

SecretPrivateThings Fri 23-Sep-16 22:18:59

OK, OK I am being ridiculous grin. Just can't understand the sudden change? I really could not have cared less about it a few months ago.

Shakey15000 Fri 23-Sep-16 22:20:57

Then care even less about the whys and wherefores and shag for Britain get thee upstairs. Or on stairs grin

LellyMcKelly Fri 23-Sep-16 22:25:17

Yes! Go for it and enjoy!

BrieAndChilli Fri 23-Sep-16 22:29:00

Enjoy it.
This happened to me a few months ago. I am mid 30s and although enjoyed lots of sex in my early 20s the past 10 years since having kids I could easily have gone without Sex for months (although 1 month was probably the longest) and then all of a sudden my labido went through the roof. I could have it several times a day! Still going strong so hopefully it's here to stay.

SpookyPotato Fri 23-Sep-16 23:22:17

A lot of it is just hormones OP! They control so much of us.. 6 months ago the idea of sex made me feel yuck, now I'm pregnant and feel horny all the time. But it's happened before without pregnancy! Nothing changes in the relationship but I suddenly want it again. Enjoy! wink

DanGleballs Sat 24-Sep-16 00:46:47

It took a change in partner for me.

I recently met up with an old friend who reminded me how we used to count how many days we could go without putting out.

New partner now and I'm a nympho.

SecretPrivateThings Sat 24-Sep-16 06:57:15

FFS I think I have now given DH a complex. Not sure how much I can post in here so let's just say he says it feels "different" and it's much more difficult to finish now (this was after I dragged it out of him; he wasn't criticising). Probably because before I was always tense and completely unrelaxed so would have felt very different. Have said we'll give it a good few days off then try again. Want to be a supportive partner, presume we'll both just get used to this? confused

flumpybear Sat 24-Sep-16 07:06:50

Tell him to get a grip - you're enjoying it ffs he should be pleased!!! wink

SecretPrivateThings Sat 24-Sep-16 07:12:15

I did a pretty good job of pretending to be relaxed I'm afraid hmm. I think it's now the fact that the grip feels very different blush

AyeAmarok Sat 24-Sep-16 07:13:29

Em... Is he saying he preferred it when you were enjoying it less and so where more tense and therefore tighter? Because if so, that makes him a bit hmm

(sorry if I've got the wrong end of the stick)

SecretPrivateThings Sat 24-Sep-16 07:16:34

Am regretting posting this now. He much prefers it that I am enjoying things. He's not a twat. It's the fact that if there is lots of lubrication blush he finds it hard to come. Bloody hell, will have to name change after this.

sophiewhitexxx Sat 24-Sep-16 07:24:45

Enjoy it! You don't know how long this is gonna last (if it lasts, it could stay with you forever now) but yeah, just enjoy it babe. I think your body wants to make up for all those years haha grin

leaveittothediva Sat 24-Sep-16 14:58:38

You go girl, if it's taking a while for him to come, why the rush, take a break, then go for it. Who wants a quickie (unless it's a quickie, if you see what I mean). Enjoy each other.

SecretPrivateThings Sat 24-Sep-16 15:16:53

Thanks. Feel ridiculous having posted at all now. Will try to relax and go with it. Think DH just a bit shocked at the sudden change! He is lovely, really. Think my body has woken up, yes.

DistanceCall Sat 24-Sep-16 15:30:25

Erm, he doesn't have to cum inside always, you know. There are ways to help him out that can be just as interesting for both of you grin.

DistanceCall Sat 24-Sep-16 15:31:33

Oh, and the same thing happened to me too. I think sex actually gets better with age.

NotTheFordType Sat 24-Sep-16 15:47:27

It's not always about the inside finish. If he finds sensation has lessened (not uncommon if you're really really wet) then he could always finish manually. I love it when my partners shoot over me grin

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