Hiya mumsnet.
Thanks everyone for being so supportive and lovely with your advice about the divorce. Long story short: husband barely works and is about to start a masters. He was meant to be 'full time carer' but in actual fact son was in nursery 4 days a week. I've worked full time and still done the majority of childcare and housework.
When I told soon-to-be ex he was shocked for a day or two, then decided that he should 'have custody'. I think this is mostly because he wants the benefit income and to not have to leave the house. I can't see him being a stable, competent, reliable, solvent parent for the next 15 years, but know I can: it's barely more than I've been doing already, without having an extra 'child' around the house.
I just don't know what to expect from mediation. I am worried that it will just turn in to an opportunity for him to do all the controlling, undermining things which have destroyed my self esteem over the last couple of years. I can't see him agreeing that he is less capable than me. I know the mediator is not allowed to take sides, but in my mind they are just some Freudian analyst who reflects everything and says nothing.
Anyone got any advice/experience they can offer?
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NeuroGirl · 22/09/2016 17:03
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