Short version of a long story - around a year ago my husband did a few things that made me question his loyalty to me (not cheating, not financial - which makes it hard because it's not a 'relationship ending' thing) and it's proving harder than I thought to get over it.
I'm still really angry at him and I just can't seem to let go of those thoughts. Obviously he has apologised and tried to make it up to me but I find myself wanting more. I don't know exactly what I want though, it just feels so unjust and I can't shake the resentment.
How do I stop myself bringing up what he did? (it's more a question of what he didn't do - think failing to stick up for me in a big way - so it's a lack of action rather than a deliberate wrongdoing)
I genuinely do want to move on, I love him and I believe he is sorry and loves me too. But there is a small part of me that comes out every so often that is so angry and wants some sort of retribution? I don't even know.
For background I do find it hard to forgive and can hold a grudge. I would usually cut out friends in this situation although that would happen very infrequently - I don't make a habit of falling out with people.
Can we get over this? And, more importantly, how?
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How to 'let it go'
alafolie29 · 22/09/2016 01:21
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