I love dp dearly. He is a great dad, works hard and provides for us etc. But he seems to have lost any desire to be near me. We haven't had sex since before dd was born - she is now 3. He won't come to bed with me even to snuggle.
He has put on a lot of weight in the last few years - as have I. I am trying hard to eat more carefully and increase my exercise to try and lose and it is happening but very slowly. He on the other hand whinges incessantly but does nothing about it. He pays a fortune out every month for a gym membership he never uses and the. Whinges that things are tight.
Pleas Ele time be clear, the weight doesn't bother me. He is still sexy as hell to me and I adore him. It is an issue for him - or at least he says it is. He hates how he looks and I suspect is a bit depressed.
How do I help him without sounding like a nag? I have been cooking slimming world meals and trying really hard not to snack etc. Been cutting down portions but then he snacks all night.
The dscs are here tonight, dd has actually gone to bed easily for the first time in forever and dp has flopped on the sofa and snored. I went to make the lunches for tomorrow and come back to find he has fucked off to bed without a word.
It feels like I am just his housekeeper and nanny. I don't care about the sex. I don't have a high sex drive but I miss the closeness, the cuddles, kisses etc. We have tried to talk about things but nothing changes. I am not sure if I am going nuts or if he just no longer loves me but hasn't got he balls to tell me.
Any advice?
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wheresthel1ght · 21/09/2016 21:06
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