My DS2 (19) is very unwell. On meds, getting therapy (private and NHS) but every day is a struggle..a big one. He has autism too which impacts even how he can understand the help he does get.
I'm wrung out. Wrung out with worry... wrung out with concened phone calls, chasing people, trying to ensure he is not misunderstood, or behaves in a way which could be judged.
I've been fighting his corner all his life, and we thought we had made it to adulthood with reasonable chances of a happyish life until MH problems started, I've also fought for DD1 when anorexia nearly took her.. through all sorts. They are fabulous people. But now I find myself close to break point. DH is lovely..but he works very long hours and I simply AM the 'fixer, the phone call maker'..the one who carries the stress of every day.
I am a fixer by nature... problem.. find a solution.. sort it. And of course MH isn't that simple. Bloody autism isn't simple on its own, and he's such a lovely man it is breaking my heart.
And I'm starting to crack.. I'm exhausted, weepy..I want to run away from it all. And cannot.
So HOW do I manage my own stress, and fear and continue to juggle everyone's needs? (I work too, in a job that needs me to be on the ball)
I read some evenings, I am learning an instrument too, but the fear creeps into my thoughts so often and I am tired of dealing with it :(
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How do you survive, when someone you love has a severe MH illness?
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StillMedusa · 21/09/2016 19:16
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