My DH is driving me mad and we've just had a huge fight - he sat in with the toddler to get her to sleep despite us discussing it and agreeing so many times we would leave her to fall asleep on her own. She's a terrible sleeper and cos she fell asleep with him now she'll be up all night dustrubed and calling for him back when she wakes up - he'll sleep through so it'll be me that'll be up with her (we also have a 10 week old baby I'll be up with too).
He's so frustrating - so incapable of change. It's not just this issue - so many things we'll discuss and then he'll just do the opposite or 'forget'. It makes me feel so unheard and frustrated. I end up shouting so much because he drives me bananas. Does he not listen/change because he doesn't care? Surely if he did he'd put some effort into things?!
Other examples - I'm about to try and potty train dd1 I've asked him to put training seat back on toilet after using it to help me with this - he never does.
I'm scared of moths so I ask him not to leave Windows and doors fully open with lights on and curtains not closed - every single night he seems to have door open and light on
He sleeps in the spare room - supposedly because I tell him off for snoring if we share a bed (I do but only occasionally) - I've explained to him how much this hurts me and makes me feel rejected but he continues to sleep in spare room
He does the washing sometimes and ive asked him not to tumble dry but just leave my clothes as half of them shrink if not dried correctly - he keeps shoving all my clothes in, on hot for hours, shrinking all my fav clothes! This has happened so many times and ivf said I'd rather he didn't do washing thsn ruin everything!
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Is DH incapable of change or does he just not care?
Superstar90 · 19/09/2016 21:45
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