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HuckfromScandal · 18/09/2016 20:32

How long would you wait on someone to turn up to a first date, before you walk?

And would you ever give a second chance, if there was no reason for it??

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Itsnotmycoat · 18/09/2016 20:35

Half an hour.

Whether I would re arrange would depend on their reason.

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CanWeNot · 18/09/2016 20:36

Depends where it was, if it was inside and warm I'd wait an hour, absolute max. Outside probably more like 30 mins and I wouldn't give another chance.

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rumred · 18/09/2016 20:36

itsnot you're generous. Id say 15 minutes tops unless they have text to warn you

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DanniiMinogue · 18/09/2016 20:38

It depends where the date is to be honest but I've waited for 20/25 min before.

I don't normally give a second chance unless there is a good reason and the person advised by text/whatsapp that they were delayed on route.

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SquirmOfEels · 18/09/2016 20:38

15-20 minutes. Anyone can run late, and if in London be down the tube and out of comms.


But I'd expect a call/text with apology and explanation at first reasonable opportunity.

And if none, or the reason was flaky, then no second chance.

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HuckfromScandal · 18/09/2016 20:40

Wow
30 mins to an hour!!!
That's a long time.

I texted when I arrived
I waited 10 mins and then left
No tect to say he was running late.

Apparently I am intolerant to have left so quickly.
My view is
First date - want to make right impression
And my time is precious.
Why would I wait - it then says I don't value myself or my own time!

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niceupthedance · 18/09/2016 20:40

20 minutes. And I wouldn't rearrange. Plenty more fish in the sea!

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HuckfromScandal · 18/09/2016 20:41

I live on Scotland
It was small town meet
Away from where I live
No traffic any direction

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WhatTheActualFugg · 18/09/2016 20:43

10 mins is quick IMO, but having said that if there's no attempt to contact you to explain the delay then it's not U to give up.

Sounds like you saved yourself a lot of hassle OP. Just think what else he could accuse of being 'intolerant' of Hmm

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CanWeNot · 18/09/2016 21:22

I think ten minutes is a bit sharp but if he accused you of being intolerant then I don't think you would've hit it off, so nothing lost OP! Better luck next time!

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Myusernameismyusername · 18/09/2016 21:24

It would depend on transport etc if I was getting a train or something but I would prob wait 20 mins? And it would depend on their reaction

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BubblingUp · 18/09/2016 21:29

20 minutes, maybe 30 - and I don't think any man I have met has been on time or early. All are late anywhere from 5-15 minutes. I'm in a city with heavy traffic. The place is usually closer to where I am coming from.

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XiCi · 18/09/2016 21:31

If they hadn't contacted me with a reason for why they were running late I'd wait no longer than 5 minutes.
The fact he called you intolerant for not sitting round waiting for him to turn up whenever he felt like it makes him sound like a complete arsehole. Dodged a bullet there.

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12purpleapples · 18/09/2016 21:41

I think you did the right thing. You want someone who is bothered enough about making a good impression to at least be on time.

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TheNaze73 · 18/09/2016 22:51

I think you left too soon. You've probably both saved yourself a lot of bother

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