I have NC'd for this.
When me and DH first moved in together- 2.5ish years ago- I found a website called chaterbate in his internet history. I hit the roof, he closed his acct blah blah.
Around 4 weeks ago, I found a folder in his drop box called 'recovery' with images of loads of naked women. Not porny pictures, but photos that actual women had taken. I kicked off again, he said it was someone at work had done it for a joke. Deleted them. I went back on to the drop box to get them from the bin on there as I was going to report this man for sending photos without the persons consent. When they had been restored, they went into a 'recovery' folder- making me think he's recovered them himself from the bin.
Last night. I'd called asleep on the sofa. Woke up and DH was nowhere to be found. Heard a noise from the kitchen so went in to find DH with his knob out watching porn having a wank.
He absolutely shit himself. I went berserk.
Bit of background is my ex used to sit and compare me to porn stars all the time. Saying I'd never be as thin or as pretty as them and that I had crap boobs etc... he would say he'd rather have a wank than sleep with me.
I asked DH the other week following in from a mn thread I believe, if he wanked after the initial chaterbate incident a couple of years ago. He swore blind he didn't and I was away on holiday for a week 2 weeks ago and he swore that he waited for me to come back.
Now it's not the wanking itself I'm fuming about, it's the hiding in the kitchen when I was asleep, going incognito on his phone etc etc. We've been doing a 'what is your fantasy' thing the last week or so and mine is that I want to watch porn with him and he won't. He said he doesn't like it and doesn't feel comfortable with it. This is another thing I'm annoyed about that I fucking caught him watching it last night.
I'm angry, sad and feel sick all at once. I don't know if I'm over reacting 
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Am I over reacting?
RavioliOnToast · 18/09/2016 10:49
Out of all of this I think the lying about the photos of women on drop box would bother me the most. The friend excuse you know is total bullshit? Why would a friend put them into his drop box??? That makes no sense.
As for wanking, well that is pretty normal but not in the kitchen 
I just don't think he sounds very honest about a few things. He clearly likes porn and wanking but lied to you to make you feel better rather than just be honest and open and now it's awful because he got caught red handed.
There's nothing wrong with self satisfying, so it's not fair at all to ask him not to do it - it's his body! but there's plenty wrong with being sneaky and telling lies about wank material on drop box.
If he's anything like mine he'll 'not know ' how dodgy pics got onto his computer. Unfortunately, not being very tech savvy I can't prove anything anyway. Maybe the only way is to lie low for a while, but keep on checking until you have incontrovertible proof. Good luck if you can keep a poker face going that long. 
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