This is my first ever thread and to say I'm devastated at this moment is a bit of an understatement.
Have been with DP for almost 6 years all going well we have lived together since pretty much the first date, lots of talk of marriage and kids etc.
DP has always had a problem with depression he seems to think he's a horrible person and isn't living up to what he feels he should be. It is also probably worth mentioning he has always had very strained relationships with his family both extended and immediate and has never had a secure family or really unconditional love which is very sad.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago a relative of his dies the funeral was yesterday. DP gets very drunk and when we get home he basically falls apart. He told me many small facts about his life are a lie (nothing major think age he lost his virginity etc) and there are also some larger lies mainly he doesn't find me attractive and hasn't for a long time and I was a rebound from his ex girlfriend (bloody six years ago) he was crying as he told me all of this and then was adamant he loved me and that won't ever change but he doesn't know if just doesn't fancy me because he's depressed or because he just doesn't anymore. He was clear he hasn't cheated and I do believe that I also believe he wants to try and sort this out. My heads a mess, I still fancy him!!!! I feel like someone has punched me in the gut and I don't know how to feel.
To be fair he as been completely off sex for about a year with flurry's in-between I just don't know how to feel this is all such a head fuck!
I'm posting from my mobile so sorry for any mistakes!
I don't even know why I'm posting I just feel I need to let it all out ...
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help so many lies
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longtimelooker · 16/09/2016 12:44
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